It takes time.
I bet that when you read the title of this article, a name popped into your head. You saw little flashes of moments you try to bury as time rolls on, the face of someone you once were calling yours.
Maybe you thought of the moment you lost them, the moment they gave up, the moment they moved on.
After all, there's a reason Katy Perry wrote "The One Who Got Away." It's because it's something so many of us feel deep in that empty part of our heart, and try to write off as just part of being alive.
Dwelling on the person who got away leads you down a dangerous track. Risky decisions, chasing after someone who has already moved on, feeling insecure. But at the same time, we don't want to abandon those memories.
It's really about healthy processing, about finding a way to work through the emotions you still have about losing the one you love in order to move on. Easier said than done.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Remind yourself that you are a force of nature. You constantly move onwards and upwards, achieving the best you can hope for. Your mind is stuck on the one who got away, lingering on thoughts of what you might have had. There are other people out there for you, and the one who got away isn't the only one.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Because a Taurus is so stubborn and loyal, the one who got away is a hard thing to push off their minds. However, finding another passion is a great way to distract from the emotional pain of the situation. Being able to concentrate that energy towards something else is a great way to get your mind off what you've lost.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
If A Gemini is stuck on the one who got away, they should take some time to invest in themselves. Sometimes you need to focus on building yourself up before you're ready for anything else, or to stop dwelling on what's already passed.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Moving on is especially difficult for a Cancer, whose emotions run deep. Once they've invested in someone, it's hard to pull back and focus on moving forward. The best thing for a cancer to do when moving forward is to try to get some amount of closure.
Having closure can mean a lot of different things, but essentially just embodies the idea that you feel your questions have been answered, and you get that feeling in your gut where you finally know it's truly over.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
A Leo is very much so the logical problem solver, but when they fall, they fall HARD. This means that they have a hard time moving past the one who got away. They try so hard to cut off those emotions, but that comes with it's own set of complications.
A Leo needs to channel this into new endeavors, focus on their more creative side to express their emotions in a productive way. If they do, they'll find themselves making progress towards a much healthier relationship with their past.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
When a Virgo can't get past the one who got away, it's often because they are so loyal and become invested in that person. A Virgo may look for validation from others during this time, but the best thing for a Virgo is to focus on themselves. Being mindful of themselves, focusing on building the life they want, each of these things will allow a Virgo to slowly but surely take steps toward being content without that person.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libras often lean towards self pitying, especially after a tough breakup. If a Libra can't take their mind off of the one who got away, they can start by pushing themselves out of that comfort zone. Get outside, go and do something, make plans with friends. This kind of involvement will help get them out of that dark place, and push them towards new things to enjoy and focus on.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
A Scorpio lives on the emotions on the chaos side of the spectrum. Although they like to believe they are all powerful and unstoppable, the thought of the one who got away is physically painful to them because of the depth of their emotions.
Scorpios can often find peace in their longtime friends, and build their confidence back up by spending time going out and slaying their game. Getting over that one may take time, but in the end it will be worth it.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
A Sagittarius who can't let go of the one who got away needs space. They need adventure, and a reminder that just because they lost someone doesn't mean that there aren't 7 billion other people on this planet. A Sagittarius should by a plane ticket, get on a cruise, take a hike, JUST GO. Have an adventure.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
A Capricorn will have a really hard time moving past that special someone. With so many traditional values and high expectations, not only have they lost someone special, but the future that included that person as well.
This is a tough blow to recover from, and a Capricorn will need to find value in other areas of their life to make up for it. Investing in a new hobby, spending time with old friends, diving into some practical endeavors.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
If an Aquarius is really, truly, hooked on the one who got away, it'll bother them. It will feel like their emotions are betraying them, and they'll try to shut them down even more than they usually would. This only succeeds at internalizing even more, causing more pain. An Aquarius needs to take the time to process these emotions. Journaling can be one very powerful and rational way to do this, and doesn't require admitting those feelings to others.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
A Pisces is trapped by the idea of the one who got away. They feel like they've been wrongly abandoned, and see their hurt as a result of that, which may be true. Their need for romance and love may also contribute to this being a constant presence on a Pisces' mind.
The best place for a Pisces to start is with a focus on what makes them happy. Many times, this will be self expression through several medias: music, painting, art. Focus on the parts of life that bring you to feel content, and let yourself sink into that for a while.
Beth El Fattal is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationships topics.