If you’re terrible at speaking to women, you need to learn the tricks of the trade when it comes to how to seduce a woman with words alone.
You would think that speaking to a woman would be an easy task. You’re a human, she’s a human, surely you can interact on that basis alone? You would think… but it’s not always the case. Which is why you find yourself wondering how to seduce a woman with words and not come across as a bumbling mess.
Some people find it difficult to speak to women without turning into one. Others are even worse at seducing a woman through words alone.
If you’re one of those people, take heart! You’re not alone. Countless people have this same issue, but it’s important to realize that the key to speaking to a woman and getting a positive response, really does align with the words you say and how you say them.
My best piece of advice
If you want to know how to seduce a woman with words, I’ll give you one useful piece of advice: be genuine.
As a woman, there is nothing worse than someone trying to be something they’re not. I hate it, and I think I speak for most other women too. You can see through it so easily. It’s shallow, to put it bluntly.
Of course, this lack of genuineness could be down to nerves, something we can all understand. The problem is, how can you expect to seduce a woman with just the power of words, if you cannot be yourself?
For me, the sexiest thing is someone who is comfortable in their own skin, and if you can make me laugh, even better.
How to seduce a woman with words in eight easy steps
So, if you want to know how to seduce a woman with words, here are my ideas and experiences.
#1 Always be honest. Why would you try and be someone you’re not? It’s really annoying and we can see through it easily. While you might wonder why being genuine is going to seduce someone, remember that being genuine means you’re building a bond of trust, and that’s one of the sexiest things to a woman!
Yes, flashiness and cockiness might be alluring at first, but if you want to seduce this woman over the long-term, and avoid quick hook ups, being yourself is always the way forward. [Read: How to successfully pass a shit test from a woman]
#2 Avoid sarcasm. Sarcasm is funny, I’ll admit that, but not everyone ‘gets it’. And if you’re trying to seduce a woman who doesn’t really see the funny side of sarcasm, you’re more likely to offend her than get her attention in a positive way.
Instead, stick to observations, throw in witty one liners and compliment her. These are all far more effective than sarcasm, which can come at a later date, once you’ve got to know her a little better. [Read: How to make a girl smile, laugh and like you instantly]
#3 Use the power of humor. I know I’m not able to speak for all women on the planet, but I know I’m speaking for many when I say that the key to seduction is in humor. Personally, make me laugh and you’ve got me hook, line, and sinker!
This doesn’t mean throwing in all your best jokes as though you’re doing a stand up routine. It means using humor here and there to make the conversation fun, light, and above all else, downright sexy in an indirect way! [Read: How you can use humor to win her over]
#4 Check your body language. It’s not all about what you say, it’s about how you say them and the way your body speaks to her too. Learning how to seduce a woman with words is about what your body is saying. Mirror her, making sure your body language isn’t closed or defensive. Then throw in the odd flirtatious look, light touch on the arm, or joking nudge, which has seduction written all over it! [Read: 14 moves to make a girl sexually desire you]
#5 If you’re nervous, say so. Alongside honesty, one of the best ways to seduce a woman is by admitting your nerves. Yes, confidence is sexy. But it shows you’re human to say that you’re nervous, and it’s also ultra-flattering. If someone is a little nervous to speak to you, that’s got to make you feel good, right? [Read: Girls spill on what are the manliest and unmanliest things a guy does]
#6 Don’t go over the top. It’s important that you know when the conversation is finished. It’s a little like a joke which is funny at first, but when you explain it too many times, it loses it’s shine and it’s no longer amusing. Short and sharp is far better than long and drawn out if you want to understand how to seduce a woman with words.
Leave her wanting more! Leave her wondering when she’s going to see you again. She won’t be able to resist!
#7 Pay attention to the tone of your voice. I mentioned checking the way your body was speaking to her a little earlier. You also should think about the way you’re speaking and not just the words you choose. If you want to seduce a woman, yes you should be genuine and add in some humor, but you also need to be a little sexy too!
This doesn’t mean talking like Barry White, but do keep your voice low, adding in a wry smile, and making sure your tone is controlled and even, and not shaking. [Read: 15 secrets of seduction to turn absolutely anyone on]
#8 Compliment her. Ah, the biggest one of the lot. If you want to seduce a woman with the power of your words, those words should be complimentary! This doesn’t mean listing all her positive points and counting them on your fingers. Instead, make the odd complimentary remark about her hair, her clothes, how you admire the job she does, etc.
If you can make her feel like the most special woman alive in those short minutes you have a conversation, she’s certainly going to want to come back for more! [Read: The compliments for girls that she will love to hear]
Practice makes perfect!
The number one way to get all of these points right, in a subtle and genuine way, is to practice. Yes, that means plucking up the courage to speak to women randomly, and see what their reaction is. This doesn’t mean leading women on, I’d like to add. It means having general conversations and using what you experience as a learning curve. [Read: Conversation tips to seduce women with the words you use]
Nobody is born with ease and charm. It is something developed over time. Yes, some people are more confident than others and that certainly helps, but it’s something you can fake, and the real confidence will grow from there.
The most important point to bear in mind is that the woman you’re trying to seduce is human! That means you can mess up occasionally. She is human and will also mess up! She’s probably just as nervous as you are, but you have to be the one to take control and steer the conversation if you want to successfully seduce her and leave her wanting more. This means another conversation, possibly a date. And who knows where it might lead from there.
Put simply, if you don’t try, you’re never going to know.
Mastering how to seduce a woman with words is all about choosing your words carefully, knowing how to say them in the right way, and what to avoid saying. Stick to neutral topics, but always compliment her as much as you can, without going over the top.