You finally feel like you’re a grownup while rocking the whole "adulting" thing in life. And yet other times, you realize that you’re more stuck and confused than ever before.
Perhaps, it's time for a midlife coach.
You might not feel it’s a midlife crisis, but the transition into this next chapter might be bumpy without help. You might remember being really good at planning your life and knowing what you wanted to do with clarity and conviction.
In midlife, that clarity can be elusive. When you’re not clear, it’s common to "spin" and keep going around and around on certain thoughts about your situation that end up being really stressful, which ends up wasting a lot of time.
So many amazing midlife women want to start dreaming again about what’s still possible for them, even now, at their age and stage of life. They sense that there’s more out there but feel pretty unclear about figuring out this path forward.
That’s where a midlife life coach can help. And, the good news is that it’s easier to find this kind of support and guidance than ever before.
In fact, more and more life coaches have taken their businesses online and specialized in helping midlife women specifically.
When you realize you’re stuck and not creating an exciting life plan for yourself, here are 10 reasons to consider hiring a midlife coach.
1. Confusion is exhausting.
Being stuck can really wear you down. It’s common to spend a lot of time spinning on the same thoughts over and over again, and the whole process can be time-consuming and exhausting.
2. You want to maximize your time.
In midlife, your sense of time can change dramatically from having enough time to running out of time.
When you’re stuck, before you know it, you see that you’re wasting valuable time, which doesn’t help you at all. You would much rather make decisions based on your priorities so that you can stop wasting time and move on.
3. You don’t want to feel "blah" about life.
Feeling "blah" is a drag. When this feeling goes on and on because you’re feeling stuck, it’s really frustrating. You know you’re off.
You might even think the "blah" feeling is a midlife crisis. You’re just not excited about your life anymore. Figuring out how to think more intentionally can help create the feelings you want on purpose instead.
4. Your relationships count.
You know that you want to be more intentional about the important relationships in your life, but there’s a problem. You don’t know where to start or how to prevent this regret.
Your family, friends, and community matter to you, but you see there’s a disconnect and this part of your life is out of alignment.
5. You want to take better care of yourself.
Don’t love your weight? Wished you moved your body more than you do? What about going to bed earlier? Drink enough water? Find time to read, create, play, or travel?
These are just a few examples of classic self-care. Taking care of yourself doesn’t happen by accident; this kind of behavior has to be intentional.
If you’re not satisfied with the way you take care of yourself, you will benefit from learning why and how to put yourself first.
6. You want to contribute at a higher level.
When you don't feel fulfilled in your life or that you're not living up to your potential, it often has to do with being disappointed with the way you're making a difference.
And when you feel like you're running out of time to contribute in this way, you can really feel like you'll regret it.
7. You know there’s more for you.
If you feel like you’re not reaching your potential in midlife, you got the memo. You sense there’s more out there for you, and you’re right.
If you believe this and aren't curious about finding the "more," you will likely have regrets.
8. You don’t want fear to rule.
When you’re really quiet and honest with yourself, you recognize that fear is actually the emotion that’s keeping you stuck.
Being afraid is likely why you’re making certain decisions. The onus is on you to decide if you like your reasons for making important decisions about your next chapter.
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9. You want to regret-proof your life.
You notice that you’re uncomfortable thinking you’re not doing enough to help yourself prevent regrets. This is because you know there’s more you can do.
You clearly need more help and skills to figure out your thoughts and get more perspective about your life and your priorities.
10. You want to be happy.
If you don’t make a change, nothing will change. You’ve decided that you want next year to be different than this year.
You don't see the results in your life that you want for yourself. You want to be happier and stop wasting time!
As someone who was in a five-year, time-wasting spin myself, I get it — and I know first-hand how useful it is to get help with clarity and forward momentum again.
This is exactly what a life coach who specializes in working with the midlife crowd will help you with.
Get help with "getting out of your own way."
A midlife coach will help you get the insight and perspective you need about what you really want and why you might be resistant or fearful. You might be getting in your own way without even knowing why.
You’ll also save so much time and mental exhaustion and feel the sometimes elusive shift toward more clarity and confidence about your future. You don’t have to believe you’re over the hill.
In fact, your next chapter could be the most exciting one yet!
Suzy Rosenstein, MA is a master certified life coach and host of the popular podcast for midlife women, Women in the Middle. If you’re 50+ and tired of feeling afraid of running out of time, visit her website, listen to her podcast, and download her free podcast bundle, Get Unstuck in Midlife for mindfulness strategies and tips to actually get excited about your life again!