Yes, ENTJs have some weaknesses ... but the Commander type isn't all bad!
Think of the most dominant, confident and possibly most successful person in your life. It’s likely that this person is of the ENTJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) Myers-Briggs personality type.
This is one of sixteen personality types described by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, a widely-used personality test created by Isabel Briggs-Myers and her mother, Katharine Briggs in order to organize and expand upon the personality theories of famous psychologist Carl Jung.
Of the types, ENTJ comes first in self-assurance and assertiveness so it's no surprise they're also called the Commander personality type.
It’s also no wonder that they typically make their way to the top of social hierarchies and are overrepresented among business owners.
However, like all other types, ENTJ personalities come with a dark side and some pretty negative personality traits.
Here are 5 ENTJ weaknesses that come along with all the good aspects of being a Myers-Briggs Commander:
1. They’re obnoxiously arrogant.
Compared to other Myers-Briggs types, ENTJ is the most arrogant on average. This confidence helps them in competitive contexts but hinders their social relationships and ability to connect with others.
They’re quick to put themselves first and neglect to think of others’ needs or the need of the group as a whole. They may have the potential for truly inspiring leadership, but sometimes it gets wasted on their egos.
2. Their impulsivity can get them into trouble.
Sometimes high confidence comes with the assumption of always being right, whether or not they’ve thought things through. ENTJs run the risk of having low impulse control due to feelings of entitlement and arrogance (see above).
At best, this leads to the occasional guilty chocolate bar in the checkout line. At worst, it can lead to a gambling addiction.
While this certainly doesn’t affect all ENTJs the same, it is something to keep in mind if you have an ENTJ friend, family member or significant other.
3. Sometimes, they’re just not nice.
ENTJs are some of the best leaders, but they’re also some of the most ruthless. An unchecked ENTJ can be seriously mean given even a small amount of power or lack thereof.
Their sense of entitlement (to power, subordinates, praise, etc.) can have them getting easily impatient and they’re intolerant of opposing views and competition.
It doesn’t stop with ENTJs only in positions of power, though. They’re nasty in competition, too; they’ll step on anyone’s toes to get ahead. They’re also difficult as subordinates due to their insatiable desire to be in charge.
4. Romantic relationships with ENTJs are rocky.
Although they can be some seriously passionate and delightfully romantic partners, ENTJs carry some hefty risks with them into their relationships.
The one that turns away potential lovers the most is their impulsiveness and the risk of them leaving the relationship on a whim. Nobody wants to live with a high probability of being unexpectedly left in the aftermath of a relationship with no answers, but with an ENTJ partner, you can’t be too sure.
ENTJ relationships that last have some distinctive problems, too. In worst cases, ENTJ partners can be controlling and abusive to their significant others.
Other times, they’re too focused on work and their own success and neglect the relationship, leaving their partner feeling ignored and dissatisfied.
5. Sometimes they just suck at handling emotions.
While this is certainly not true of all ENTJ personalities, many have difficulty handling their emotions, especially when other people are involved. Although they’re impressively introspective for being an extroverted personality type, they struggle with empathy for others and tend to ignore their own deep-seeded feelings.
This is largely due to their innate belief that emotions are a weakness and that they should be repressed and forgotten completely.
You can help an ENTJ friend immensely by ensuring them that letting their emotions loose will alleviate some of their stress (and that you won’t judge them).
For more about what it's like being an ENTJ, watch this video. It really helps illuminate our Commander types!
With famous names gracing the ENTJ hall of fame like Charlize Theron, Jim Carrey and Harrison Ford, it’s easy to get a feel for the strong, compelling traits of the ENTJ personality type.
It’s important to remember ENTJ's weaknesses in order to be understanding of your ENTJ friends and romantic partners.
Nobody’s perfect, but ENTJs try their best to be!
Emily Van Devender is a freelance writer and Colorado native. When she’s not writing, Em enjoys live music, photography, and spending time outdoors.